Wanting a baby

Lesbian Couple Want Father Figure To Their Child
When a lesbian couple decide they want to have a child with the father being part of the child's life, using a sperm bank is no longer an option. It's time to consider Co-ParentMatch.com.

September 22nd 2009 - Why I chose Co-ParentMatch.com over a Sperm Bank?
As with many women my biological clock began to tick very loudly when I hit the big 30. I was fortunate enough to be in a wonderful loving and supportive relationship of 12 years however with one small but apparent problem - my partner is female. So, in terms of making a baby there were decisions to be made.

The first discussion my partner and I had in the baby-making process was around the 'sperm bank' option. We spoke at great length about the pros and cons of using this process such as anonymity of the donor, trust in terms of health screening and of course cost. Ultimately for us, we couldn't get over the anonymity factor. My partner and I both have very close relationships with our fathers so how could we bring a child into the world when we knew nothing about their biological dad other than statistics on a piece of paper such as eye colour, height and profession? We couldn't live with not knowing anything about that person and most importantly we felt that it wouldn't be fair to allow our child to grow up not knowing their father. We are not naive enough to think that children without a father figure grow up to be any less of a well rounded individual than those with a steady father in their life - in fact we both have close friends who have grown up perfectly well without their dad being around. Sometimes there will be no father figure due to separation, divorce or the father simply not wanting or accepting that role as 'dad'. However unlike these factors, the decision for my partner and I was not something that was out of our control -we were very much in the driving seat. So, with the option of a sperm bank not completely buried but very much pushed to the back of our minds we considered our other options. One possible avenue we both agreed on would be to ask a male friend to 'help' us. One slight problem - as we trawled through our contact book of male friends it very quickly became clear that for reasons ranging from 'married' to 'not interested in fathering a child' we hastily ran out of options on that possibility. Ok, so what next? The internet - solutions to all problems! After typing into Google terms such as 'sperm donor', 'sperm donation' and 'sperm bank' the only results produced were options we had already considered and dismissed. We realised that what we were looking for was a 'co-parent' - someone who actually wanted to be a dad to our child.

With this is new found concept in mind we typed in the magical word co-parent and stumbled across Co-ParentMatch.com. Our first reaction when finding the site was "oh my god there are other people like us out there", and not just a handful but thousands! We very quickly registered with the site and within minutes were searching for our man. We engaged in conversation with a few guy's who didn't quite fit the bill but after a couple of weeks as members we typed in our usual search criteria and found someone who seemed just what we were looking for. We exchanged messages a couple of times, spoke on the phone and then arranged to meet. Mark is a single gay guy, good looking, good job, own home, lives locally to us and is just lovely. The three of us built up a relationship over a 2-3 month period and then decided to go ahead with our baby making plans.

We insisted on Mark having health screening tests as this was something really imperative to our plans. We were not naive enough to think that just because our man was professional and a lovely person that he would be 'clean' so we insisted right from the start on health screening tests which he was more than happy to do. In all honesty we were approaching the 'desperate' stage of wanting to get pregnant and it was very difficult going through cycle after cycle of ovulation without any attempts at getting pregnant but waiting for the health test results was well worth it as it really put our minds at ease. With a set of clear results we were ready to proceed. We bought the home insemination kit from Co-ParentMatch.com and arranged our dates to meet. We performed the insemination over 3 days for 4 consecutive months and just as we were beginning to doubt the process we finally got that positive result that had taken over a year of planning. My partner, Mark and myself are now looking forward to the birth of our daughter and giving all the love in the world to our new family. Co-ParentMatch.com asked me to share my story and I didn't hesitate. I can't thank them enough for providing this website and am grateful for the service they provide.

Co-ParentMatch.com is the leading site worldwide for matching sperm donors and co-parents. It offers a simple guide to choosing the best option for finding that missing link in completing your family.