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Hello! Looking for my ideal donor for my second and potentially third child who is healthy, intelligent, kind, open-hearted, easy going, and attractive.
I’m an emotionally and financially stable mother who has been raising a daughter as a single parent for 8 years. Being a mother is what brings me the most joy and purpose in life. I am an extremely devoted parent whose lifestyle and parenting style can be described as engaged, having clear and firm boundaries, wholesome, naturally minded, health conscious (clean organic diet, etc), and spiritual, both in principles and in practice. We play, sing, read, travel, meditate, hike, have deep conversations, grow a lot of our own food, cook, immerse ourselves in other cultures, and have a nature-inspired homeschool learning pod in our home with 9 other children that focuses on all core academics, permaculture and self-sustainability, arts, building, music, and cultural studies. My mother lives up the street from us and we have a very close family and great community so a lot of support and meaningful connections. I have a university degree in business and work part time in a unique career arrangement that allows me to both support a family and be a stay at home mom much of the time. I own my home and many other assets.
Several bad relationship experiences of feeling like I really knew someone and then being shocked and disturbed later on when other sides of them came out led to feeling like I couldn’t really trust anyone fully enough to have a child with them (or maybe just haven’t found the right person yet). That along with countless split parent horror stories from family and friends as well as my uniquely supportive family, community, and career situation led me to this decision with my first child and back to this decision now.
As far as the donor process…. I’ve been feeling this out for quite a long time and have looked into a lot of the details and options. I would be comfortable either with remaining anonymous and meeting up monthly (retaining an anonymous email connection for updates and potentially reaching out if the child is curious to meet at some point when they are older or not if that is your preference) or going through a clinic (I’m good with a contract but have found that a man donating to a woman who is not his wife via a licensed clinic is legally not the father of any resulting children so doesn’t have any rights or responsibilities to that child even without a contract). I see pros and cons but I think my preference is meeting up anonymously because I feel there is something sacred lost in the clinic process and it feels so unnatural to me but I’m open to what feels best to my donor. Even anonymously I would still like to get to know each other to some extent and am also more than willing to prove my situation with photos or other documentation. I may consider natural without anonymity with an international donor who is not a US citizen. If you have any questions about any of these details please let me know but essentially I prefer natural if we can come up with a way to both feel comfortable and eliminate risks with the arrangement. The anonymity would be for mutual protection due to there being no way to avoid legal parenting right or responsibilities with natural insemination if someone were to later change their mind and try to establish donor as father.
A huge thank you to the sweet men reaching out to me. Unfortunately I’m not able to respond directly to all but I appreciate you!
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