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Hi!
We are a lesbian couple based in the UK looking to find a sperm donor. We are planning on having 2 or 3 children (with the same donor) via Reciprocal IVF, so that we can both play an active role in conceiving. We are looking for a donor who lives abroad; this is because we really would like to be open and honest with our children about how we created them, and we would love for them to have the opportunity to meet their donor in the future. However, we also think that the geographical distance could help prevent confusion, particularly during the early years of their childhood. In the future, when our children become naturally curious about how they were made, we don't want to restrict that curiosity. In fact, we would quite like them to think of the donor as being an extended family member that they might see from time to time - although this is something we can discuss. We can't predict how they are going to feel, so we will always try to keep an open mind - which is why we will never hide the fact that our children are donor-conceived. We never want this to come as a shock to them.
Ideally, we would like to meet our chosen donor and develop some kind of friendship with them before we commit. We think it's important for all parties to trust each other, particularly if the child/children are likely to have contact in the future. We would prefer our donor to be over the age of 30, and not to have donated to other families in the past (or intend to in the future). The reason for this is that we want to ensure that if our children ever become curious, they are able to contact any half-siblings they might have. However, we are more than happy for the donor to have children of their own, of course!
We are planning on having children in the next couple of years, but would like to initiate a friendship with potential donors now, so that we can all feel sure that we are a good match.
A little about us:
We are in our mid-twenties. We have known each other since university, where we both studied English Literature. We have been together for several years now and live in Cheshire, close to my siblings and their children. Our children will be raised around their aunts, uncles, and cousins. We are a close, supportive family. We have just bought a house and are very financially stable - both of us work full-time for a marketing agency.
We are both academic people, but we are also very creative. We are both writers - Holly has written children's books and I write novels in my spare time. We love animals, have a dog, and would consider ourselves to be left-leaning politically. Both of us are vegetarian - soon to be vegans! - but we want our children to be able to make their own decisions in this area (and in all areas of their lives!). We love travelling and spent four months living in a converted campervan during the early stages of our relationship - which we absolutely loved.
The egg would come from me (Maz), and Holly would carry. I am half English, half Palestinian - my family is very healthy. I am 5'6", dark hair, dark brown eyes, light skin. I was born in England. Holly is petite, brown hair, green eyes.
We both love children very much, and seeing my siblings have babies has strengthened our desire to have a family of our own.
We are more than happy to answer any questions!
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