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Other Info:
To be clear, I am not looking for romance.
Strictly a co-parent or sperm donor.
I am often described as a walking contradiction, I like hot chocolate in the summer and ice cream in the winter. Often found in museums, theatres, art galleries, book shops, and patisseries too. Often found on the dance floor in the middle, moving with no care in the world.
Hobby wise, I love theatre (mostly potgm subject matters), literature (anything and everything), art (contemporary mostly and street art), music (as eclectic as it comes, from abba to jay-z to pink martini to the killers to alabama shakes to guns and roses to burna boy to elephant man - love music), tv (i am a serial binger) and films (very much a film snob but nut balls about marvel comics).
I enjoy travelling - New Orleans and Paris are my favourite places to date. New York too, but New Orleans stole its place in my heart.
The ideal co-parent would be worldly and open to experience and people.
Essentially a humanist, and by this I mean, an individual who treats people as the fallible humans that we are. No one is perfect, therefore, if you are anti any group of people (such as anti lgbqtia+, disability, potgm, etc), then, our morals will not align. The reason being there is no growth when you surround yourself with people that don't challenge, and this is likely to come by engaging with people outside of your vacuum.
Race and religion are not a priority for me. Growing up in an Islamic household and classing myself as a non-religious practising Muslim, the child would be raised learning about the Islam religion. If they wish to practise it, that would be their choice. Whether that is the sweetness of Rosh Hashanah or the lights of Diwali, I would want the child to experience the diversity and delights of all religions. I resent the notion that a child from a home of two different religious or racial backgrounds will grow up 'confused'.
As previously stated, I am not fussed by the race of the co-parent. But, make no mistake that a child with me will be black. Whether the child has light skin or any 'mixed' features, the child will be received by the world as black. And I am a proud black woman, and this child will be raised to continue to be proud of their heritage. That is not to say I will sideline their father's background. No. I believe a child should grow knowing as much as possible about their heritage full stop. After all, in order to go forward in life, you need to know where you are coming from.
That being said, should the child be of 'mixed' heritage, it is important for me that the co-parent's family understand the above also. It takes a village to raise a child, and this child will interact with the co-parent's extended family. However, it is important to protect the child from any potential ignorance or lowkey racism displayed by extended family members on both sides.
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