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I am health and have an above average intellect. I have volunteered with children for years and love spending time with them, but have grown to accept it's unlikely I will get married and have a child of my own. I am looking into both fostering and becoming a sperm donor as alternate methods of experiencing 'fatherhood'. I’m also donating as I’ve met many bad donors in my role as moderator of another large free donor site, and I don’t want any women to have to settle for those individuals; more options means less settling for women.
I will accept the level of contact (including no contact) dictated by the mother, but I would prefer to be known to the child and involved in his/her life. I am not looking to co-parent, primarily because I'm uncertain of the viability of two individuals being able to present a proper united front required to raise a child. Instead I was thinking of playing a role closer to that of uncle, I was hoping to be known to the child, but with the mother (and her husband/partner) being responsible for making all important parenting decisions.
I have a history of altruism. I’ve volunteered for a number of charities working with children (breakaway/breakout with access ministries, big brothers big sisters of America, children’s developmental clinic, therapeutic riding, First robotics, etc). I also donate blood, and registered to donate bone marrow, and have donated a large percentage of my gross income to those charities recommended by GiveWell.org. Finally, I donated my left kidney, as a non directed donation to a 2 year old child I never met before, on January 19 2011; Ironically my nephews birthday. However, I must make it clear that I cannot provide financial support for any child I help produce, as the money would come out of my charitable donations and I am unwilling to do so. Therefore, I will only donate to those capable of covering all expenses for the donation process and caring for the child without further financial assistance.
I am intelligent as well as physically healthy. I have an IQ around 135, and graduated from one of the world’s top schools in computer science field. While attending University of Maryland I aided my peers with tutoring and debugging of software, and was credited by many as the reason they pasted assignments, quizzes/tests, or, in one individual’s case, an entire course. I’ve since worked for Microsoft and a few different defense contractors, in that time all my managers have given me extremely positive reviews.
Anyone looking to use me as a donor should be aware that I was diagnosed with inattentive variant of ADHD as a child. This means that there is a chance that any child, particularly a male, could be ADHD. I don't consider ADHD to be a disability, it comes with numerous advantages such as creativity and slightly higher than average intellect, but I feel any perspective mother should be aware of this before considering me as a donor.
I am a virgin, by choice. My virginity was originally due to the correct circumstances not coming up. I wasn't committed to being a virgin, but none of the opportunities for sex that occurred felt appropriate. Since I became a donor I have had offers that I would have previously been tempted to accept, however, I now abstain from sexual encounters to avoid STD and maintain my CMV- status, important traits for a sperm donor. Recipients who have had few sexual encounters, or have been contacted by the red cross and told they are part of the 'baby brigade' may also be CMV-. Recipients with a CMV- status should only use CMV- donors, as there is serious risk to the child if you contract CMV at time of conception.
Finally, I was actually featured on a 20/20 episode about sperm donation, airing January 13 2012 under the unfortunate name Donorsexual (I don't approve of the tactics of the individual who coined that term). I am Drew, assisting beth, the first couple shown on the episode.
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