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Other Info:
I would like to approach this with as much intention and care as possible. Ideally, I would have met someone to marry and have children with; however, I do not wish to lose my prime fertile window. I believe it is better to proceed thoughtfully than to delay indefinitely.
My preference is for a stable solo mother or co-parenting arrangement in which my child or children know they were deeply wanted and can have access to their father, even if not within a traditional family structure.
My plan is to begin trying to conceive in approximately 12–18 months, following a period of health optimisation and preparation.
Irish ancestry and cultural continuity are important to me, and I intend to actively raise my children with a strong connection to their Irish heritage. For this reason, I am seeking someone of Irish ancestry if possible, ideally with similar physical features to my own (tall, dark hair, light eyes).
In the longer term, I am planning a life that includes time in both New Zealand and Ireland, and I intend for my children to grow up comfortable and connected in both places. Stability, clarity of roles, and the wellbeing of the children are my priority.
About Me:
My interests include reading, languages, linguistics, and writing. I am slowly working towards my Bachelor of Arts in Linguistics and English, and a Diploma of Editing and Proofreading (both by distance and part-time while working). I love painting, piano, and cooking. I do have an interest in history, and art history. I enjoy going to the cinema and have an extensive personal DVD and Blu-Ray collection (admittedly also some VHS). I have a rescue dog whom I adore. I love the mountains and the sea and enjoy long beachwalks and peaceful walks and hikes amongst nature.
And I am starting a much more steady civilian role in defence in February which makes the financial feasibility of becoming a mother more secure.
Motherhood has been a long-held and carefully considered goal for me. I have wanted to be a mother for as long as I can remember and have been saving toys and books in preparation for quite some time. I am most looking forward to the small moments — reading at bedtime, introducing them to music (whether playing piano or choosing songs for the car), first horse rides, and the simple joys of colouring, making art, and crafts.
About You:
Ideally, you would like some involvement and be at least open to knowing the child or children, even if only a couple of times a year. You have a grounded personality and are prepared for the reality of this arrangement, and—importantly—are willing to communicate so we can reach an arrangement that works well for both of us.
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